As our kids become tweens and teens and head to middle school, the rules of parenting change. We go from very directive parenting to more of a guidance or coaching style of parenting. We have to give our kids the space to figure out who they are, to allow them to make mistakes and learn recovery from those mistakes, and to try on new behaviors like new clothes and decide for themselves how those behaviors feel. This is a very insecure and uncertain time for t(w)eens and they need us to love them unconditionally while they are behaving in most unlovable ways. Avoid being critical at all costs while still setting limits and saying “no” when necessary. Be consistent and keep your kids connected to family as much as possible. Hang on for the wild ride that is parenting teens!
Wishing you balance,
Bette Levy Alkazian, LMFT, BCPC
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