I often say to my clients, “The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.” It’s so true. Often, we hope that people will behave differently than in the past, but we forget that it’s very unlikely and we become disappointed and frustrated. The best thing you can do is to MANAGE YOUR EXPECTATIONS REALISTICALLY based upon people’s past behavior. If you expect something different, then you are the fool. If you put this into practice you will find that you will be disappointed by people a lot less often.
This is a very common way that I see people set others up for failure in relationships. When our expectations are unrealistic, we become quickly angry and disappointed and really the person is being consistent with who they always are.
Watch for this in your own relationships!
Wishing you balance,
Bette Levy Alkazian, LMFT, BCPC
from MOMIPEDIA post on Facebook 4/27/16