Compassion is the Antidote to Judgment!

There is so much disrespect flying around and judgment of all kinds. I don’t know about you, but one of my highest priorities is that my kids become respectful adults when they are grown. Rather than jumping on a bandwagon, howling at the news or your friends expressing displeasure about our country or the happenings in our world, be sure you are being an example of respectful behavior.  There will always be strife in politics and over the years we won’t agree with things we see or hear, at times. Be a model citizen for your kids and show respect for differing opinions and tolerance for those who are different from us. The ultimate antidote to judgment is COMPASSION! Teach it and model it daily!

Wishing you balance,

Bette Levy Alkazian, LMFT
Balanced Parenting

from a post on MOMIPEDIA on Facebook 11-16-16

Reacting vs. Responding

A life of raising kids is certainly filled with adventure! You never know what is going to come at you! The true test of balanced parenthood is being able to keep our heads on straight when times get challenging.  The key is to RESPOND to situations, not to REACT to them.  What’s the difference?  Sometimes, it’s simply taking a second to take a breath, let our anxious heads have a minute to settle in with the situation and then making a clear and concise decision about how to handle something rather than the typical knee-jerk reactions we are usually likely to employ.  But how do we do that when we are in the moment? The key is less in the moment than in other moments.  When we take good care of ourselves on a day to day basis – rest, exercise, healthy food, self-care, nourishing relationships, etc…we are more likely to have the internal resources to stay centered in a “knock-you-off-your-feet” moment.  What have you found works best for helping you to stay calm in those crazy moments?

Wishing you balance,

Bette Alkazian, LMFT
Balanced Parenting

from MOMIPEDIA post on Facebook

The Beauty and Ugliness of Spring

The beginning of spring is upon us! **Aaaaachooooo** (Excuse me)

The signs of new life appear everywhere. It’s actually a very exciting time to see the trees come back to life, the daffodils in bloom, the wisteria making its brief appearance on gates and walls… and there’s new hope in the air! Excuse me if I’m completely clueless about what spring is about considering that I live in Southern California, but there are some signs even in this typically warm climate that the beautiful season of spring is here. **Aaaachoooo** (Excuse me)
Read on here.

Balanced Parenting

It has been such a long time since I have updated my blog. I must confess that I, too, struggle with finding balance at times. As we all do! I believe that balance isn’t a state that we live in, it is a state that we are always striving for, and as a result, we are constantly making corrective moves.

Life often gets away from us and we must remember to come back and find our center again. Doing that sometimes means putting things on the back burner that can wait, but won’t overwhelm us later. It’s about prioritizing what really matters and letting go of what doesn’t. Letting go is a big challenge for some of us, but quite liberating when we finally succumb.

When evaluating your priorities, remember to put yourself first, your marriage second and your kids up there in the top three. Take good care of yourself to bring your best self to your marriage/relationships and to your kids; take good care of your primary relationship so that when the kids are grown and gone you will have someone there with whom you want to move forward; and, when those two priorities are cared for, you will bring an amazing parent to the table with your kids. Your buckets will be filled up, your support and internal resources will be in place and you will have all you need to make good choices in parenting your kids.

Wishing you balance,